Sunday, October 6, 2019

Hero: The song II By Ashwal Bolla


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Hero

Wake  up, fade  away,
Only  thing  you  see,
An  endless  void  up  ahead,
Wants  to  eat  you,
You  were  trapped  in  there for  hundreds  of years.

This  is  a  story  for  a  lifetime,
You  think,
But  it  was  too  late,
Your  arms,
Your  legs,
Your  body,
All  gone  into  the  void!
But  this  is  no  time  for  fadin’  away,
Kick  them  out,
Fight  them  off,
Do  it  for  your  nation,
Do  it  for  humanity,
Do  it  for  your  pride,
And  be  a  hero!

Now  the  void  itself, fadin’  away,
Brings  you  back  to  the  battle,
Monsters  winnin’
Humans  losin’
You  run  ahead, leave  them  behind,
Get  your  weapon, return,
Cause’  you’re a hero!

Oh, oh, oh,
You kick them  out,
Takin’  them  down, one  by  one,
You  win!

All  this  bravery,  made  you  a  hero,
The person you wanted to be!

Just be a hero!
For  your  nation,
Just  be  a  hero!
For  the  world…

Later  on, you  make  your  own  legacy,
Fendin’  off  evil,
Your  own  group  of  heroes,
You  in  the  center,
Mantle of a leader!

They’ll  remember,
That  this  new  race  of  heroes,
Started  off with you

Songwriter:
Ashwal Bolla



Interpretation of the song

It’s about this hero who woke up and saw himself fading away.
Later, he saw an endless void up ahead and he suddenly got this feeling that the void wanted to eat him and that he was trapped in there for hundreds of years.
He thought that this was a story for a lifetime, but it was too late, because his arms, his legs, his body, were all being eaten by the void.
But he knew that this was no time for fading away, and that he had to fight and kick them out and be a hero.
Even the void a life, reading the hero’s brave thoughts.
The void itself disappeared and it sent the hero back to the battle. The hero left them all behind at the battlefield, went to his home, grabbed his sword and shield and came back to the battlefield.   He was the strongest in all humans so he took down the monsters one by one, and he and the humans won.
All this bravery caused him to be a hero, so he continued to be a hero for his nation and the world.
Later on, he made his own legacy, a team of heroes, and he was the leader.
Later he just hopes that this new race of heroes started off with him.




Thursday, September 5, 2019

Emotional strength in children



We often talk about emotionally strong children who look very mature, who don't show rage, who don't cry a lot. We think that emotionally weak children do everything opposite, they disturb, crib, snatch, cry, scream.
Where does this emotional strength come from? We are definitely not born with social judgment and ability to regulate emotions. In fact, we are born with a fragmented psychological frame, not knowing what’s ‘me’ and ‘not-me’. It takes time to develop the boundaries of ‘me’ and ‘not-me’, which eventually act like out gatekeepers and filters. The boundaries help us absorb, understand, respond, connect in appropriate ways. Traumas can puncture these boundaries often resulting into weaker psyche during traumas. But in general, there are a few things should be done and should not be done to build layers of boundaries to understand ‘me’ better.
There are 10 layers that need to be developed for strong boundaries and thus for emotional strength:
1.      Power of identity – Children develop their identities all the time. Understanding of belongingness develops early. The gender identity, as Frued puts, gets strongly developed in the Oedipal phase at the age of 4-6 years. Children build their self-image based on their understanding of their personalities, body-shapes, performances, age-appropriate skills, people’s responses and much more.
Don'ts: Why are you crying like a baby? Why do you want to use my cream, are you a girl? You hit him; you are a bad boy. He is your friend and you must share with him. You will be a good girl if you study well. Why are you behaving like your sister? You are eating like your fat friend.
2.      Power of bonding – A display of affection is needed for children. Verbal (telling openly), physical (hugs and kisses), gestural (looking at the child and smiling) ways are a few of the ways of doing this. A 15-minute time of talking/playing without distractions helps them feel connected. This is more importantly needed during transition phases (like for a baby when she wakes up after sleep or for a preschooler at the time of leaving for or returning from school ). Listen when children talk. Do not be judgmental and preachy they share something.
Don’ts: talking more than the child, judgments ( you shouldn’t talk about your friends like this, you must respect your elders)
3.      Power of being taken care of – The basic needs of being fed or being provided shelter makes a child feels taken care of. This is generally missing in underprivileged kids or orphans.
Don’ts: Neglecting basic needs, providing more than needed to compensate for own childhood’s gaps
4.      Sense of being needed – If children feel that they are a burden to us or their presence is overwhelming for us they think of themselves as a liability. Then they want to establish their power. This often leads to tug-of-war, struggles, and defiance. We could help them feel needed by verbally telling that they were missed a lot when they return from a trip or by asking them to help in the household chores. Help a child feel like a giver and an important part of the family and society.
Don’ts: making a child feel like a liability by overtly sacrificing (“I can’t come for the party as there is no one to leave my child with” when the child is in earshot)
5.      Power of choice – We need to understand the difference between the platform of equality/discussion and parental authority tower. It helps to decide what areas do we want our children to have a choice. We cannot let them decide which city to move to, but we can definitely let them decide what to wear. Provide them choices to choose from like “Will you prefer roti or rice for dinner tonight?” instead of starting an open-ended discussion like “What do you want to eat today?” Children develop decision-making abilities if they can trust their choices.
Don’ts: reject choices after asking, mock at their choices
6.      Power of trust – It goes both ways. Children need to know they can trust us (we can do this by being consistent, not adamant though) and they also need to know that we trust them (we can do this by letting them do age-appropriate tasks, by making them responsible for a few things). Lies or tardiness here and there do not break that strong layer of trust. Understand the difference between dependability and truthfulness. Children lie when they are scared to tell the truth, keep this in mind.
Don’ts: Asking the teacher if she gave homework even if the child says she didn’t, checking the door again for even if the child says he locked it
7.      Power of discipline – Discipline and punishment are two very different things. While discipline focuses on the behavior and child’s safety-cum-learning, punishment focuses on the child and stems from parents’ moments of weaknesses. Discipline in children means that they know what’s expected from them, what the dos and don’ts are. Be disciplined parents first. Don't say what you won’t do.
Don’ts: hitting, shouting, ignoring, isolating, ridiculing, depriving, threatening, giving empty threats.
8.      Power of empathy – Empathy and sympathy are different. Empathy comes from understanding, sympathy comes from guilt and pity. A layer of empathy helps children understand people’s behavior better and thus they are able to regulate their apathy/guilt/anger. Empathic children are more in charge of their own emotions. If your child laughs at an obese girl, let it go at that time. Talk later what kind of obesity-causing disease the girl might be struggling with.
Don’ts: Shaming the child for ‘wrong’ thoughts, expecting an empathic child to adjust and let it go all the time.
9.      Power of big picture – Children do not understand time on a spectrum. They see time in small chunks. As a result, their understanding of consequences is very dim. They are better equipped to take decisions and regulate responses if they know what’s reversible and what’s not. We should share pieces from our childhood, so they can see how our choices in the past have affected our present. We should ready them for their future without imposing the difficulties of our present.
Don’ts: if you don’t study well you will not get a job, it’s ok if he has hurt you; just shake hands and be friends again
10.   Power of positivity – There are two ways to look at most of the things. One way to look at torrential rains is “Oh no, it’s been raining so hard, we haven’t been able to go out anywhere”. The other way to look at the same thing is “Thank god we have a shelter and food to eat. It must be so difficult for homeless people in this rain”. Of course this is not applicable for crisis situations where someone has died. But the ability to look at most of the things from a positive angle prevents children from taking everything as a catastrophe. Broken pencil, poor marks, ripped pants, poor T.V. network are difficult situations and not crises. They shouldn't respond to all situations with the same panic.
Don’ts: oh no, such poor marks! Oh no, there is no power supply today! Oh no, there is no juice in the fridge! Oh no, they stopped airing my favorite show!

(Note: This write-up is a result of many months of research. A special thanks to Priya Balasubramaniam for collating the points after the workshop. Should you want to consult for more details/discussions, let us know at info@confidentliving.co.in. )

Wednesday, August 28, 2019

Jupiter: By Uthkarsh V.

About New Interesting Discoveries on Jupiter
                               This new Hubble Space Telescope view of Jupiter, taken on June 27, 2019, reveals the giant planet's trademark Great Red Spot, and a more intense color palette in the clouds swirling in Jupiter's turbulent atmosphere than seen in previous years. Hubble's Wide Field Camera 3 observed Jupiter when the planet was 400 million miles (640 million kilometers) from Earth, when Jupiter was near "opposition," or almost directly opposite the sun in the sky.

NASA scientists have been doing a lot of research on Jupiter. They have been peering deep inside
Jupiter’s great red spot, which is a storm that has been raging on the planet over 350 years. They
have detected signs of water above the planet’s deepest clouds. Researchers have predicted that
Jupiter has two to nine times more oxygen than the sun.
The great red spot is full of dense clouds due to which electromagnetic energy cannot escape and
hence scientists don’t get any information about the invisible spot. A theory says that decades ago
the Jupiter was identical in composition to the sun. However, these new findings indicate that Jupiter
has an abundance of water which can solve our planet’s water problem. All this data for research has
been provided by NASA’s spacecraft named Juno.

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